Relationship glossary

Love map

The Gottman term for knowing your partner's world, including their interests, worries, hopes, and ordinary preferences.

What it looks like at home

Knowing the current coffee order is one small detail. Asking what matters about a change at work is another way to keep learning.

The useful distinction

Treat knowledge as something you update through conversation, not a test to pass or a reason to record private judgments about someone.

Source: The Gottman Institute: build love maps.

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