Relationship glossaryRelationship glossary

Repair attempt

In Gottman terminology, an action or statement intended to interrupt a negative turn in an interaction and help the conversation recover.

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What it looks like at home

An ordinary example is: ‘That came out badly. Can I start again?’ The other person does not owe immediate agreement or forgiveness.

The useful distinction

A fresh start does not erase the issue. Return to the practical concern when both people can talk, and do not use humor to dismiss it.

Source: The Gottman Institute: R is for Repair.

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