Most couples argue about chores without knowing they are describing two different homes. Answer for each job, then send your link to your partner. No account, no email, and nothing is stored.
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Why it asks about four kinds of work
A chore list only shows the doing. Someone also has to notice the job exists, decide how it gets done, and check that it finished. That is why the work can feel uneven even when the visible chores look even. Read more about the four jobs behind every chore and what mental load means.
What to do with your results
- Find the jobs you described differently. Those are the useful part.
- Pick one, not all of them, and ask your partner how they see it.
- Agree one owner for the whole job, including the noticing.
- Look again in two weeks and adjust.
If you want hours rather than who does what, use the chore split calculator. If the hard part is starting, here is what to say.
Questions about this test
- What is a mental load test?
- It is a short list of the household work behind the visible chores, used to see who notices, plans, does and follows up on each job. It shows how you each see the work. It does not diagnose anything or measure a relationship.
- How do I know if I carry the mental load?
- Look at the Noticing, Planning and Following up answers rather than the chores. If most of those sit with you, then you are likely doing the thinking even on jobs your partner does.
- Can my husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend take it too?
- Yes, and that is the point. Send your link after you finish. Your partner answers without seeing your answers, then sees every job you each described differently.
- Are my answers saved?
- No. Nothing is sent to Tiptoe or stored in an account. Your answers stay on your device and in the link you choose to send.
